There's the Vaush vs Bogardus debate, though it doesn't seem anyone thinks Vaush came across well.
I don't think Bogardus contributes anything very original, although he makes his points in a clear way. The term 'transwomen' exists, so when saying they are women, that is not also saying they are not transwomen. So the slogan 'transwomen are women' is about expanding the category 'women', not eliminating any recognition of difference.
If Bogardus actually referenced any serious Feminist theory, he'd know the idea that presenting the idea women can and must be defined in a single way, is a false-dichotomy, when it has always contained multiple interacting layers and contexts.
Why is the issue around transwomen explosive, and that around transmen basically ignored, like here in this paper by Bogardus?
"Thus, humanity is male, and man defines woman not herself, but as
relative to him." -De Bouvoir, in The Second Sex
This is a major source of grievance around this issue, the implicit idea that being female is for men, aimed at pleasing them and meeting their requirements. Being male as the default, and being female as this special category of being an object of desire.
Transwomen in sport, women-only spaces, transwomen in prisons, gender recognition certificates versus verbal affirmation, these are live issues. We need to discuss them, and we need to find ways to do it without the issues being used as weapons to prevent actual meaningful discussion.
Most of all though, the existence of unsettled questions must not be used to harass and deny basic civility towards transpeople as part of a political agenda to prevent social change. None of Bogardus' points bear at all, on the fact using someone's preferred pronouns is the polite thing to do.
I don't think being impolite is criminal, but it also doesn't mean no consequences. People can use the n-word in a workplace, but they are going to face a HR case regardless of Free Speech laws.